How to Live Life With a Sense of Humor
Time seems to be hurrying up – faster than ever before, so it’s good to remember…breathe deeply, stay present, take life slowly and with a sense of humor.
A good example of this would be times when friends or family members fail to help you when you ask even though you’ve unselfishly helped them many times before.
It’s helpful to remember that whenever you choose to do a good deed for another person, you should expect nothing in return. Otherwise, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. This is because many people you help will not return the favor. Sometimes they will, but you can’t count on it, so don’t set yourself up expecting them to when that may never happen.
When you choose to help someone, do it because it feels right and because it’s the right thing to do. Otherwise, if it doesn’t feel right to you, don’t do it.
It’s your choice…
Remember your choice is your responsibility and it’s not the responsibility of the other person. If you choose to do a certain thing, answer “yes”, and if something about it feels wrong, answer “no”. Then follow your inner guidance expecting nothing in return. Sometimes you may be pleasantly surprised when they do something nice for you in return, but at least, you’re not setting yourself up.
Sometimes though, even after taking the precaution of not expecting anything in return, you may still feel disappointed when people you’ve helped don’t want to help you. At times like these, when you ask them for help and they answer that they’re too busy, or some such thing, their answer seems unfair, unjust and not right. Then, you may feel stung. It’s natural to feel that way and to some degree, unavoidable. Then, if you want, you can contact me for an Angel Reading.
In fact, the way you feel is the way you feel. It’s okay to feel that way for a certain amount of time. You’re feeling hurt because you were feeling vulnerable. To not recognize this would be tantamount to going into denial and that doesn’t serve you.
The fact is, it does hurt when people refuse to help and act insensitive. It causes you to feel uncared for, unloved and dismissed. So go ahead and feel the way you feel, and when you’re ready, move on.
In order to move on, after you have indulged your feelings for a while, it helps to find the humor the situation. It may take a little doing, but in most cases, you can do it. Remember, from a certain vantage point almost anything can seem funny and in a Spiritual Counseling session, you can receive the help you need.
For instance if you were watching the same type of situation you just experienced depicted in a funny movie, the complete absurdity of the situation would be highlighted, and the character who had received help not being willing to lift a finger when asked would appear so ridiculous it’s funny.
In thinking about your own situation from a funny perspective, you can laugh, and your laughter will clear away a good deal of your tension and some or most of the hurt.
A funny movie that comes to mind is Monty Python and the Holy Grail. Lots of unfair, and unjust situations occur in the movie, but they seem so ridiculous, you find yourself laughing and having a wonderful time. Why not have a wonderful time in your own life? It’s all a vast screen of entertainment anyway, you might as well find a happy, joyful way to look at it.
It’s helpful to know you can actually choose which emotions serve you best. Do you want to be sad, or do you want to be happy? Either is possible. It’s your choice.
Which emotion will you choose?
I prefer happiness, and in order to be happy, I choose to laugh. Laughter is clearing. Laughter is angelic. Laughter helps heal our bodies, our emotions and helps to keep us sane.
Some people choose anger when they feel slighted and they hate others and make them wrong. You may have done this yourself once in awhile. The problem with this is that by choosing anger, you never feel better, and you always feel badly. After awhile, the negative emotions start eating you up. You stop being happy, and you start feeling obsessed.
On the other hand, when you choose to take whatever situation you’re faced with, and turn it around in your mind until you see the humor in it, you find yourself laughing, feeling good and enjoying life.
Then, through happy thoughts and emotions, you start to feel one with yourself. Your health improves. Your mind feels clear, and feelings of happiness spontaneously well up in your heart. Life becomes a joy.